priorities who needs them?

I strive to be a loyal friend at least, if I cant go to the latest club or hang every weekend I feel like I'm  a good listener, and there if someone needs me. Well its summer time and I would like to hang with my friends that I haven't seen in a while but once again like I wrote in a former post, we don't keep in touch very well. Whose fault that is nobody seems to know. So the title of my post, priorities who needs them? is about my friends. I wish people would be honest if not honest, up front and let others know especially your  friends that  they won't call or make time for you. I have a friend that told another friend of  that she was "anti social'  that's why she hasn't  called said person. How can you have friends and be "anti social", maybe you should say; "hey I have other priorities and I don't have phone calls at the top of my list:", honesty is always the best policy no? I would in fact, I have, I like to be upfront with people and I know when to cut and run. The funny thing to me is that these people(the ones that never call) are relatively free, ie no kids and travel and go out at a moments notice. I have a child and I can't, it involves more planning. I always seem to put all of this "being a good friend" stuff on my shoulders and I cant anymore because it suddenly is not a priority for me either. I'm not being rude or vindictive, I'm being real. I am going to actually focus my attention on people that want to go out, that want to talk with me, and I don't see every 3 months and they are within spitting distance. I don't think I ask for a lot, I think paying attention t o me is important and everyone needs to feel special, in any and all relationships. I finally learned that my feelings are not petty and  simple things like phone calls and keeping in contact are important, in other words a priority.