What I want!!

I mentioned in my last post about dating well  round about about what I want. I wanted to express what I want and actually at this point in my life need. I remember being young and kissing LOTS of frogs. Just thinking that me being attractive was the end all and be all and I would love the attention. No real conversation but mostly sex, lots of it bad, maybe 60% for one reason or another. There was the guy that talked about economics after sex, or the guy that got off and shuddered at my touch. I have had some good ones, good sex but no human touch or real interaction. The guy that was good in bed but talked too much and it was all bs and lies or the guy that was great in bed but his sexuality was dubious. I didn't know how to  vet in those days or know what I wanted. Why did I care when men found me attractive? At 42 and divorced I finally know and I am demanding it,either ask for what I want or  I am willing to walk away. My marriage died because I picked the wrong person and still continued to continue even after having doubts. I thought love was the answer but it is/was not. The list goes as such:

A man that is sexual/ not afraid of intimacy: this is pretty simple, a man that likes sex and intimacy and has at least a sex drive. Intimacy is another thing high on the list, comfortable with himself, and wants to have sex, often.

A man that expresses himself: If you are angry be angry sad be sad don't put your feelings on the back shelf to make me or others feel good. This is a quick road to disrespect and low grade resentment

A man that is sober: drug addicts, heavy drinkers, gamblers, not interested and been there done that. Not feeling it.

A man that has drama/ is a bitch ass: Any man that has to handle situations by running from them  or creating drama, no thanks.
 A man that likes children. I don't care if a man has kids but if he does  taking care of your children  is sexy, in all aspects. Not just money but being there for the child. Also  Understanding I have a daughter and she comes first. She is going to be around until I die you may not be
A man that respects me and finds me fascinating, finds me deep, puzzling, serious, funny,charming, and a person that he wants to be around just because. Finds me lovable and makes me bring out my womanly side
A man with a plan: being rich would be awesome, having a plan to have a productive future for me and you is even better
A man with a sense of humor/personality
A man that has his own hobbies, things to do, dreams. I shouldn't be your dream. Go out either with friends or by yourself, I can't be entertainment
A man that knows to walk away even if it hurts
I mean there are smaller things but this is the master list of things I cannot do w/o and not planning to.
I know he is out there I guess its up to me to find him.